Be Anyone You Want – Just for Tonight
Bold Question:
Have you ever imagined fucking someone else?
Be honest and own it. We understand it’s a fleeting thought, just a moment in time. It’s natural and it’s also a sign that maybe you need a little something extra in your sex life. It’s not about cheating, it’s about increasing your sexual connection and giving you something new to think about. Something to lust after and crave.
And from this very need, role play was born. Whether you’re thinking of sex in a public bathroom, a gang bang with hoods so no one can be seen, a threesome of endless cumming, a girl on top as the motorcycle revs to 80 mph, poolside on the grass, anal on the stairs, or sucking cock under the table … it was all born from fantasies and the chance to be anything you want.
Luckily for you, there’s a way...
Step #1
Let your spouse pick.
The easiest thing we can do is pick our own role play characters, but the truth is, you’re missing the point if you do. Your characters should not be what you want, they should be what your significant other wants. This is what truly help build and rebuild connections. It’s about fulfilling your partner's fantasy without judgment. So, if a man wants the dirtiest slut in the restaurant, who grabs his cock in front of everyone, and lets him kiss her breasts in public, then ladies – pony up. That's who you’re going to be. If a woman wants a man who wears a bowtie and glasses, who’s shy about sex and unsure of what to do, then men – it's your turn to repay the favor.
Step #2
Build your persona and attire.
Most couples don’t spend enough time on this step. It’s crucial to setting up a role play experience that will make you beg for more. This is the discovery phase; it gives you time to build out your character. This includes your persona and attitude, your body language, your name and background story. Most importantly, in this step, you’ll construct the visual elements of your attire. Are you sleek and sexy? Or shy and mysterious? Ladies, please don’t be the stereotypical prep schoolgirl with a naughty side. That's boring. Think about being the erotic hooker who loves giving blow jobs in public restrooms, or a mechanic in coveralls who wears nothing underneath but a glow in the dark thong. And men, don’t just be the great looking guy in a suit that picks up a chic at the bar. Instead, be a grungy cowboy who speaks proper English and calls his lady, “ma’am.” Don’t always be the pursuer, be proper and make her work for a change.
Step #3
Play with complementing and conflicting characters.
Role play works with perfectly matched characters, such as a firefighter saving the woman caught in a fire. Yet, it also works with a horny female seducing the muscular firefighter and making him succumb to her every desire. Breaking character stereotypes with either personalities or visual elements adds another layer of intrigue. It’s the creativity that builds excitement and allows a couple to connect differently. So, go against the norm. Find new ways to sexually express yourself and fulfill each other’s fantasies.
*Tip #1
DO NOT SHARE. Once both of you have agreed on characters, shut your mouth! It’s completely fine to tell your partner the character you’re going to be, but your interpretation of that character should be a surprise. The woman shouldn't know that her man is going to be a jerk at the restaurant and walk away from her. And the man shouldn’t know that the woman is going to wear a see-through dress with nothing but pasties on underneath, AND flirt with every man she sees. Your character’s personality and attire should be highly confidential. You decide everything. Pick your props, create your story, and get ready for one wild night of torturous pleasure. NOTE: If your partner is looking for a specific type of personality or attitude with your character because that’s part of his/her fantasy, you must incorporate it. BUT ... that doesn't mean you can't have some twists of your own. 😉
Step #4
Pick a place.
If you’re new to role play, start in your house. It can be hard to stay in character, or even get into your character when you’re in a public setting and you don’t know what to expect. But if you’re feeling more adventurous and don’t give a fuck, or you’ve done this before, then it’s time to pick your meeting place. This can be absolutely ANYWHERE. A bar, restaurant, carnival, sports game, hike, public pool, parking lot, etc. There are no restrictions here. You’re setting the scene for the night, so pick how it starts. You can decide together, or one person can make the executive decision. And remember, where you start, isn’t where you’ll end. Role play is all about surprises.
Tip #2
DO NOT BREAK CHARACTER. This is by far the hardest thing to do. You already know each other, so it’s very easy to slip into a work conversation or chat about the kids. But not tonight. You aren’t those people right now; you are just meeting for the first time and the other knows nothing about you. He/she has no clue how you’ll be dressed, how you’ll act, what you’ll say. Everything is new. You can now be as demure or dominant as you want. As a female, you can unzip his pants and grab his dick, or you can bat your eyelashes and look the other way. What he does next, is up to him. As a male, you can be loud and arrogant, and walk away. Then you'll have to wait and see … will she follow you?
Step #5
Let the games begin!
Now you meet. This is where the fun starts. Hearts are racing and the sexual chemistry will be off the charts. Remember, this night is only for the two of you. You must create your own story. You must remember you are characters in a game. This is as much a challenge, as it is fun. A challenge to see your partner differently, live out your twisted fantasies and do things you never previously would have. Role play can present challenges, especially if you’re creating a story with conflict, followed by a hot fuck. You partner might not know where it’s going, so you learn how to vibe off each other and communicate as your characters. Trust is essential to letting the night unfold naturally, while staying in the mindset of your new identity.
Tip #3
NOTHING IS PERSONAL. Role play is most fun when you push the boundaries but doing so can cause problems for one of you or both of you. Honestly, just get over it. In this process, you’re both finding your place and evolving as you go. Which means that you’ll have to remove negativity and never take it personally. If you’re a female and your man starts flirting with other women, don’t get mad. Understand that this is the plot twist he wants. Think about the fantasy he may be going after and then play your cards. Same is true the other way around. Let your character guide you. It’s not about your relationship anymore, it’s about the relationship you’re building in this role play.
Step #6
It’s time to chat.
After every role play, it’s important to talk to your partner about the good and the bad. If something went wrong, discuss it. And then, be honest with yourself … are you taking it personally? If so, get over it! This is meant to push you and bring your sex life into a new dimension. Let it take you there.
Connect
While role play is great for living out your fantasies, it’s also an exciting way to rejuvenate your sex life. It allows for playful communication during the planning and execution phases. Couples report renewed interest and connection with each other, as well as a desire to be part of and fulfill their partner’s sexual fantasies.
It is the chance to be someone entirely different, a chance to satisfy your partner’s desires, and leave them wanting more. After all, you can be anyone – just for tonight.
There’s a lot to explore with role playing. Now that you understand the setup, let us help you discover some role play twists to empower your play. Visit Role Play Ideas to learn more.