4 Must-Give Blow Job Techniques
The infamous blow job … performed everyday by wives and girlfriends around the world and often viewed as a mere role to fill, an expectation or requirement, with little thought put into the method of performing the act. Yet it's far more than just sliding his cock between your lips. Positions and props are there for the taking (or should that be giving?), and if you can master some of the more unusual techniques – some that he’s never experienced before - you will have your man eating out of the palm of your hand forever.
What’s in it for him?
What is it about blow jobs that men love? You could ask one hundred men and get one hundred different answers, because oral sex is a deeply personal experience. But let’s evaluate a few of the most common answers:
Domination
Men love to feel in charge, and having you kneel at his feet can be a huge turn on. This can be something of a paradox, though, because ultimately you can be seen as being in charge, because you literally have his whole world in your mouth, let alone in your hands.
It’s easy
Not in a lazy way, of course, but standing, sitting, or lying back while he’s being blown takes all the pressure off him to perform. It’s so much more relaxing than fucking, and requires zero effort from him.
It’s decadent
Blow jobs are all about him and that can be a powerful thing, especially for a man who generally likes to make sure you cum, and cum first. Being the center of your attention can make him feel amazing.
It’s visual
Being sucked off is like starring in his very own porn scene, without the risk of it being ‘accidentally’ aired online. Unless he’s lying flat on his back, he will have a bird’s eye view of your mouth, and his cock sliding in and out. He’ll be able to see your tongue licking his shaft like a popsicle, your spit glistening on his helmet, and possibly even be able to make out traces of your lipstick all over his cock. The sight of you getting a mouthful of his manhood will make him swell with pride (at which point you may want to steady your gag reflex).
Control
When it comes to receiving a blow job, your man can guide your head at the speed he desires for ultimate pleasure. Then when he’s ready to cum, he can also decide if he wants to feel your tonsils on the tip of his hard cock, or if he would prefer to pull out and cum on your lips and face. Again, all of this takes very little effort and ensures he gets exactly what he wants.
The benefits from blowies are many, but let's face it, at the end of the day, he just wants you to suck his dick so he can explode in your mouth … at least for the first round.
Does technique matter?
Hell yes, and if you are asking this question, you’re the reason this article has been written. Of course, at its core, oral sex comes down to one thing: his dick in your mouth. While that may have been sufficient when both of you were just starting out – he would probably welcome a more evolved technique; after all, what could be sexier than a woman who really knows what she’s doing?
What’s in it for the girl?
Well, the basis of giving him head, as we’ve touched on above, is that it’s all about him; his pleasure, his visuals, his orgasm, but actually there’s a lot to be gained by a woman who pays more than lip service to her man’s dick. The feeling of power when he (quite literally) turns to liquid in your mouth is a massive turn on for you, too. Being able to reduce him to a quivering wreck with just your lips is something to be experienced. Not to mention, looking up at him with his member stuffed into your mouth, provides its own type of empowerment. To have the ability to give him the best time of his life is like nothing else, and once you can do that you will be hooked. If you’re not, get there. This is a requirement, ladies.
How to give head to get ahead
Okay, so we’ve touched on some of the reasons why blow jobs are important, but what we haven’t explored so far is how to make them so unforgettable that he will lose his mind as well as his load. So, without further ado, here are some of the most unusual techniques for giving head that will make you a gobbling goddess.
The Grapefruit Technique
Not only will the Grapefruit Technique* give your man the most amazeballs mouth fuck ever, but you get one of your five-a-day, too. It’s a win-win. Yep, it isn’t just a euphemism, this technique really does use a grapefruit.
Do your prep beforehand by bringing a ruby grapefruit to room temperature, and then rolling it for a couple of minutes to get the juices flowing – the juicier the better, just like your pussy. Then cut off the top and the bottom. We know the prep is boring so bear with us. Take a sharp knife and make a cock-sized hole in the middle, so you’re left with a tube.
Blindfold your man. If he sees you bringing out a grapefruit, he’s going to wonder what the fuck is going on; bring out a blindfold, on the other hand, and he’ll be down for it straightaway.
Okay, here’s where the fun begins.
Give him a helping hand if he needs to get hard, and then slide the grapefruit over his cock and bring it to the base, twisting it as you go, then repeat a few times. Shafting him with a grapefruit like this will feel like he’s in a really juicy vag; you can even squeeze your hand around the fruit to make it feel tighter.
Now, with the grapefruit at the base, slide your mouth onto his dick and proceed to suck him off. At this point it won’t even really matter how you do it because he will feel like he’s fucking your pussy and your mouth at the same time, and he’ll be in sensory overload.
*Just make sure he has no cuts or scratches on his knob or it’s gonna buuuurn.
Just Hanging
A lot of men fantasize about blow jobs, and if your man watches porn he will be extremely turned on at the thought of being deep-throated. In case you didn’t know, deep throating is taking the full length of your man’s cock in your mouth so that the tip hits the back of your throat, or even reaches down into the throat. Visually it’s incredible, and the feeling is second to none. But…unless you have your gag reflex well-tamed, you will probably end up gagging, and no matter how turned on he is, the sound and sight of you almost up-chucking on his knob is going to ruin a perfectly good erection.
By lying on your back and letting your head hang over the edge of the bed, however, you will open up your throat and give him easy access. All he then needs to do is stand beside the bed and slide his cock in. You might still feel like choking (as opposed to choking the chicken), but the reflex won’t be as strong and it’s a great way to get your throat used to being screwed. Plus…it will give you a head rush, and you could even masturbate at the same time; his mind will be blown.
Tip: when his cock touches the back of your throat, try humming. It will cause vibrations on the tip of his member to send him over the edge.
Make it Bubblicious
‘Coming for a drink?’ will have a whole new meaning when you practice this next technique. Champagne is good, but if you can’t spring for it, try a soda. Heck, choose your favorite drink and really enjoy it – just make sure it’s ice cold.
The place just below the head is perhaps the most sensitive part of a man’s member, so try this. Choose your poison, take a swig, and then take him in your mouth. By pressing your tongue against the sweet spot just below the head, he will feel the icy bubbles fizzing and popping on his prick, which will add a new sensation. The feeling doesn’t last long, so swallow (and what man doesn’t like that, right?) and do it again. It is, after all, important to stay hydrated during any form of exercise. You could even alternate between sucking him off and kissing him; Cristal or cola, passing fluids from your mouth to his is messy, erotic, and fun.
Mix Things Up
Maybe you’re not ready to try deep throating yet, and perhaps you don’t like the idea of using fruit to get frisky, but there are still loads of ways to bring a standard blow job to new heights. Try introducing one or more of these techniques when you next give head:
Get it Licked
It sounds obvious, but a lot of people don’t use their tongues as much as they could when it comes to oral sex. Use your tongue to lick slowly and lasciviously from base to tip, using your whole tongue as if you’re really enjoying a popsicle. Lick all sides, and let your saliva soak his shaft because the feeling of your breath on his dripping dick will feel amazing. While you’re at it, pay tongue attention to his balls and his ass, and everywhere in-between for an all-inclusive experience.
Make Sure Your Blow Job Sucks … in the nicest possible way, of course.
It might be called sucking off, but actually, not a lot of sucking comes into it for most couples. Concentrate on just the head, and use gentle suction to create a deliciously pulsating sensation on his cock. The head is the most sensitive, so this will heighten his arousal enormously. If you want to go a little further, take his whole length in your mouth and then gently suck so your cheeks are sucked in. His cock will press against the insides of your mouth and feel like he’s inside your hot, moist pussy.
Blow jobs can be as simple or as elaborate as you want to make them. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with a quickie on-your-knees before work, but the more attention you pay to technique, the more rewarding it will be for both of you.