8 Tips to Increase Your Sexual Appeal
Sex appeal oozes out of some people who are completely hot as fuck for simply breathing and existing. It can either come naturally to a person or not, but there are ways to increase it if you fall into the latter. When it comes to sex appeal, there are a few famous names that come to mind … Jason Mamoa, Megan Fox, Tom Hardy, Ryan Reynolds, Brigit Bardot, Jim Morrison, Marylin Monroe, all exude sex appeal onto our screens, leaving our hearts and loins throbbing in desire. These sexy people have a charismatic charm that radiates in their natural environment and in the public eye.
But in your personal relationship, and after years of being together, many couples don’t have that appeal to each other anymore. But don’t worry. We’re here to give you the secrets of getting that appeal back in check. You know there’s no hot sex without it, so let’s start at the foundation.
Check out our 8 tips below:
#1: Know How You Smell (be honest)
We remember more from what we smell than any other sense we have. So, how do you smell?
Smell is so powerful that our most significant memories are tied to it. Women also produce pheromones that men can smell, signaling sexual attraction and appeal.
For many couples, there is a high level of comfort gained over time. Sometimes this leads to a little too much comfort, causing a lack of sex appeal. Think of all the smells you may possess throughout the day … waking up after a long night of sleeping, fast-food restaurant encounter, cigarette smoke in the elevator, sweat from your end of day workout, etc. All of these scents say, “fuck me now” or “please don’t touch me.”
After all these years together, it’s probably time to get uncomfortable. Put the effort in for all the little things you used to do to smell great. Shower more, if needed, use cologne/perfume, change clothes appropriately, and most importantly, be aware of what your activity is and who you’re around. This will help you bring back all the good memories of smelling your wife or husband.
#2: Care What You Wear
You don’t have to fork out big bucks to increase your sex appeal. I personally would rather jump on a guy in a pair of jeans and a clean t-shirt, than a guy wearing a suit that looks too good to touch. You can keep things simple and still increase your sex appeal by giving a shit what you wear, it’s easy. Jeans that hang past your butt and skin-colored leggings are horrors of the past that should never be repeated.
Ladies your clothes should complement your shape, not distort it. Dressing for your body type isn’t as hard as it might seem and can be the key to raising your sex appeal. Putting a shapeless sack over an hourglass figure is a downright sin, so dress up those curves and strut your stuff. Your man thinks you look good in anything so spice it up a little with some figure hugging dresses and a pair of heels. Try out different makeup styles to see what suits you. It’s an easy upgrade to a fresh new look.
Guys it’s all about not looking like a hobo in stinky, holey clothing you found under the bed. Tracksuit pants with holes in the crotch may be comfortable for you all year around but shouldn’t be worn outside of the basement without a trigger warning… Anything with a hole in it needs to go in the trash. Then invest in some new socks and underwear; it’s always a wise move. Also, if you want to wow your girl, do something different. If you never wear a suit and tie, then do it. If you haven’t tried new t-shirts since 1990, buy a new design. A little effort goes a long way, and helps your partner keep seeing you as a sexy stud.
#3: Get Active Together
Exercise can be fun and ultra-rewarding when it comes to your overall sexiness, but it sure does sound like effort. Why not try some physical activities with your partner that don’t seem like exercise but in fact are? This is a great way to increase your mental connection while working on your physique. Not to mention, breaking a sweat in the gym will probably get you thinking about breaking a sweat in the bedroom. And that’s right where you wanna be.
Walking is the easiest and most available on hand exercise. Make it a daily or weekly activity for you and your partner to get out together and stretch those limbs. Not only are you spending time together but you’re toning up muscles and increasing your stamina, all which contribute to a better relationship and sex life.
Or find some cool new spots to go for a hike, to a waterfall or through a national park, walk around the city instead of driving or catching public transport, checking out sites and shops you wouldn’t normally see from inside your car. The beach is one of the best places to walk for exercise. Not only do you get amazing views, but the benefits for a healthy mind and body is an additional gift. Sand is hard to walk on, yet I bet a 20km stroll on the shoreline will feel like nothing compared to a stiff walk around the city streets or stuck on a treadmill.
Going swimming once or twice a week is a great low impact exercise you can do to benefit your entire body. When you go for a swim almost every muscle is being used, blood circulation is improved and because it’s fun, swimming is an easy winner when choosing to take up exercising. A fit mind and body will increase your sex appeal instantly as it raises your self-pride and that booty…
One key element for all of this is to remember #2 above. Care what you wear when working out too. Don’t just put on baggy sweats. Ladies, put on a cute pair of shorts with a crop top. Or if it’s colder outside, choose sexy tight leggings and a fitted jacket. The point is to get your man to pay attention and fixate on every move of your body. Men can do the same. Wear a tight shirt that shows your upper body muscles. Women love this part of the male body, so show it off and make her drool.
#4: Have a Midday Fuck Fest
Nothing will increase sex appeal and desire more than finding a way to sneak in a fuck session in the middle of the day. There’s something about knowing you’re pressed for time, you have a million things to do, yet you can’t pry yourself away from your significant other. After midday activity, your partner will be on your mind all day and night. You’ll be dying to repeat the act and the sex appeal will be at an all-time high.
These sessions are best left unplanned. By now, you’ve been together long enough to know each other’s schedules, so use that to pick a day and time. Then just tell your partner what you want. But tell them in a graphic manner that provides specifics and paints a picture. A female could say something like, “I’ll be home at 1pm today. I’m dying to feel your hands on me. I want you to fuck me from behind and remind me that I’m only yours.” Then her husband could respond saying something like, “I’ll be there. I guarantee you’ll know that I’m the only one who gets to fuck your pussy.”
This type of communication makes sex fun and creates the appeal and tension needed to concentrate on the physical aspects of your relationship.
#5: Start a Sexting Revolution
Some daring text messages are certain to increase sex appeal. The best part about texting is that it’s quick and you can be anywhere. While your workday may be hectic, and your boss may be upset, you can change your headspace in about 1 minute by sending or receiving a sexy text. This can be in writing, or an audio message, or of course, a sexy pic. But there’s also a nuclear option … sex video.
Starting is easy. Send a few mildly flirtatious messages and then let the conversation guide you. If you ever so slightly increase the sexual tension with each communication, you can go from PG to NC-17 in just a few hours. That’s when the real sex appeal kicks in. As your conversation progresses, hopefully you’ll find the need to level up to a juicy homemade porn masturbation video. Or you can send each other pics and videos of a previous session.
The options are endless. Step out of your comfort zone and start the revolution that will have you dying to fuck each other.
#6: Try a Fresh Cut
Have you been rocking the same hairstyle for the past decade or more? It’s time to freshen up your look and try out a modern cut and style. This could seem basic, but we can’t tell you how many people in a long—term relationships talk to us about this very thing.
Keeping your sex appeal high, means taking care of yourself, not falling years behind the curve. So, talk to your stylist. Get some advice on which styles will complement your face and highlight your natural features. We get so used to how our partners look every day, that even a small change will be noticed and appreciated.
#7: Get Dirty in The Kitchen
Food is the way to more than just a man’s heart, so ladies, you’re going to take this one in the kitchen. I’m talking about cooking a meal together and then ending on the counter, bent over, turned sideways, or spread-eagled.
Planning out the weekly dinner menu becomes monotonous and boring after time, and if that responsibility is left to only one of you in the partnership, then things can get a little stale. Cooking together helps you connect, flirt, kiss, touch and create new memories. It sets the stage for ultimate sex appeal.
Write out a list of your favorite dishes and pick one to recreate yourselves. It could be a simple spaghetti Bolognese or an award-winning truffle risotto. As you're cooking, stay open to cheeky food fights, kissing, and maybe some light ass-smacking. After 30 or so minutes of flirting, you’re certain to fall right into hot animalistic sex on the countertop, or the floor. Perhaps you even start exploring what the faucet water sprayer can really do. It will be the first-time cross contamination is highly encouraged…
#8: Get Confident as Fuck
The number one tip to increasing your sex appeal is confidence. It doesn’t matter if you look like crap the moment you wake up or if you had a rough day. When you walk into a room with confidence, heads will turn. Even if you are a shy wallflower and are trembling on the inside, it’s all about acting the part. Forget the opinions of anyone and everyone, except for yourself and your partner. Lose yourself in each other and own your shit. That’s when your true confidence will shine.
Now, go on … amp up your sex appeal. Trust us, you’ll be glad you did.