4 Ways to Stimulate Your Sex Life with a Dildo
The “Dildo.”
In the past there was quite a lot of taboo surrounding this love beast, the most common misconception being that it was only used by single, spinster women living alone with their 33 cats. Society tried to shroud it in shame, labeled it for the deviants, yet these same people went home and shoved that devilish dildo, right up their own asses… Thankfully, dildos and the opinions of the masses have come a long way in history, and the whole market has become more accepted as a healthy part of a couple’s sex life. But what if I asked you to guess when the first dildos were made? You might answer somewhere around the 1920’s, 30’s, 40’s? At least in the past century or so surely? Well, you’d be wrong.
According to the “Institute of Sexology” exhibit in London, the first dildo was made more than 25,000 years ago. What a surprise, early man thought to replicate his penis before inventing the lightbulb! Anyway, during the middle of the Ice Age, a horny caveman and his even hornier cavewoman were bored, and in a lightbulb moment of history, they invented the world’s first dildo. Carved from stone, the couple spent hours exploring each other’s hidden tunnels and caverns, having orgasm after orgasm in explosive amazement! It was then that the cave-couple realized what had been missing from their relationship the whole time. The inclusion of the cock-rock, or as it’s more commonly known, “The Dildo.”
“How do I get my partner interested in some dildo action, and which one should we choose?” Great questions, I’m so glad you asked! To start with pick a time of day when your partner is relaxed or has at least put their bag down. Sit him/her beside you, open your laptop, and start browsing the hundreds of options at your disposal. Don’t be afraid to talk to one another about your boundaries, your mutual expectations, and your desires. Respect goes a long way, and so will that dildo! Trust me, by this point you have their full attention; the seed of curiosity has been planted.
In the world of dildos, anything goes. Perhaps your partner dreams of being fucked by an 8inch purple cock with realistic veins and an ass tickler? You got it! Maybe you would rather a 20inch, double ender that glows in the dark and sings Eye of the Tiger? You can get that too! Ok, well what if you need to start small because your ass is a major virgin? How about a mini butt plug or some ribbed love fingers? They’ve got thousands!
Choosing your first “Couple’s Dildo” together is part of the fun and can help ease some of that nervous tension you both may be feeling. Once you’re both satisfied with your selections there’s only one thing left to do. Check out and make out!
Before we go any further, if this is the first time you’re using a dildo, stick with the basics, insert a dildo into the female pussy. Pull it in and out, spin it, test pressure and positioning; do all the baseline functions that get you accustomed to a dildo. This always provides a great deal of pleasure, but it’s what you do after, that will create a more heightened experience between you and your partner. After all, simple dildo vaginal penetration is just the beginning, and the goal is to level up. For many of you, using a dildo is old news, so now it’s about optionality.
Sizes and shapes are easy to change. We don’t need to give you a lesson on that. But what about use? Have you tried everything, or are you missing out on some crucial orgasms?
Perhaps you need to open your mind a little more or maybe you need a push from your partner. Whatever it is, we’re here to give you some new ideas for your friend, the Dildo.
Give the Dog an Extra Bone
Don’t limit yourselves to only using your new friend during foreplay and oral sex, when it’s time to insert the meat, Mr. Dildo can join in too! If you’ve never had a threesome with your partner (yet you’re both a little curious), a dildo can fill the position nicely. No need for an extra person, no competition or jealousy, just pure sexual indulgence. Play out your fantasies with the addition of a dildo in any sex position it will reach, but for this example let’s focus on “Doggy Style.”
Imagine as he’s slamming his cock deep in your pussy from behind, that another cock arrives to play. Vibrating gently, slipping in and out of your ass, matching the rhythm of his thrusts. The sensation of being fucked by two cocks at once, will bring your level of arousal to new heights. Guys, imagine filling both her sexy holes whilst getting a dick massage at the same time, feeling the vibration of the dildo on your cock, through her soft pink walls. Time to intensify her arousal by playing with her clit, all the while maintaining that rhythm. The orgasm that erupts will be so intense, it may kill you both! (I take no responsibility).
Then think about a switch. Maybe your man wants to take your ass. Let him. Then fill your pussy with a dildo. Remember, this provides pleasure to both of you, so test different shapes and sizes. As a female, you may prefer more in one of your holes than the other. As a male, you may prefer something different. Keep in mind his cock size and what pleases both of you. Together, you’ll find multiple combinations that send you into a world of ecstasy.
Oral Sex with a Twist
Oral sex can sometimes get a bit boring (said no one ever) but adding a dildo to the art brings new life to the old BJ. Let me give you the rundown. For this one you can take turns or better still, go together, blow together! Even the award winning, all-time favorite ‘69’ position, can be improved beyond reasonable doubt when you include a dildo.
Guys, start by finding the clitoris. Don’t worry, I’ll wait…
Women are very passionate beings, so start with small kisses on her neck, moving your lips and tongue down her entire body. Once you reach her pussy, part her legs slowly, or throw them over your shoulders. Find her clit at the top of the vagina and begin slowly licking her mini-atomic bomb, gently sucking between tongue strokes (this should get those sweet juices flowing). Now time to introduce the dildo. Firstly, tease her pussy hole with the tip of the dildo, running it up to her clit and down to the entrance. By this point she’ll be aching for you to slide it in, so don’t hold back anymore. Push that bad boy in and out of her very wet pussy, thrusting deeper and deeper as she moans on the brink of orgasm. Next, slip it down to her ass and with the tip, slide it in just a little, pushing deeper with each gentle thrust. Work that pussy with your tongue again like it’s your favorite dessert, all the while fucking her ass with the dildo. Within minutes she’ll be squirting the ceiling, screaming your name!
Keep in mind, being fucked up the ass with a dildo can be an overwhelming feeling for anyone who's never tried it before, so communicate. Saying things like, “Do you like that?” or even “How does that feel?” shows respect, caring, and allows you both to alter the experience to your liking.
The Unspoken
Ladies, I have some handy tips for you too. While you suck his cock in your usual sex goddess fashion, use the juices from your mouth to lubricate the dildo. Glide it over his perineum (the smooth part between his balls and butt), and back up to his very full love balls. With each stroke get closer to his ring and play around using the tip. If he moans, keep going but just in case, a handy “Does that feel good?” can give him reassurance he has some control left. At this stage gently insert the head of the dildo into his buttonhole, just a few millimeters at a time; you want him to relax into it for maximum pleasure. Make sure you read his rhythm, watch, and listen to his cues as to how far you can penetrate (especially if he’s never had anything shoved up his ass before). If he’s still moaning in ecstasy, it’s time to slide that bad boy in!
You want the dildo in about 1½ inches deep, concentrating your efforts on the front wall of his abdomen. Well done ladies, you’ve just found his secret G spot…. By now he’s hard as fuck and in a position of ultimate submission, close to the biggest orgasm of his life. *Note that the first couple of times he might be too nervous for actual penetration, but you can achieve a similar result just by rubbing over his sensitive areas.
It won’t take long before he blows that load into your mouth like a fire hose, his body quivering and jerking like a dying fly on a grill, uttering those noises men make after the best blowjob of their lives.
Mind Fuck
Last, but not least, is the powerful mind fuck a dildo can offer. Ladies, I bet you’ve never thought of sucking a dildo while your man fucks you. Seems strange – right? ... sucking an inanimate object, as if it was alive and pulsating. Well, this is one of the best mind fucks you could provide to your man. Men want to fuck you, while you slowly suck the dick of someone else. However, when you’re married or in a committed relationship, threesomes aren’t generally preferred. Lucky for you, Mr. Dildo is here to save the day.
First, let him take you in any position he wants. Then use the dildo as if it’s attached to another man. If you’re doggy style, hold the dildo in front of you and go to town. Spit on it, so he can hear you. Start slow and lick the sides of it. Then vigorously suck the dildo, just as you would another man.
When your husband flips your over, keep that dildo in your mouth. Let him watch you suck it, lick it and spit on it. Then when you’re ready, deep throat that dildo. And remember, you want to show your man just how much you love sucking dick. Don’t be careful – feed that dildo into your mouth like a hot dog. You want your man drooling over your actions, begging you for more. He should see your slobber, wiping your mouth from the saliva.
You can even go from the dildo to your man’s dick, sucking them both and letting him dream of the fantasy without the anxiety. Use two dildos if you want, one in each hand. Rub the dildo on your breasts and stick it back in your mouth. Let your man know that you want every dick in your mouth, all the time. He will cum in you and all over you, as he watches you enjoy oral pleasure from every dildo you have.
A Job Well Done
Don’t forget that dildos can be added to almost all sex positions thought possible, so get creative with one another and throw in an extra boner, or two. Your mutual desires can and will be fulfilled, enhancing both your sex lives and the relationship you share with one another. The possibilities are quite simply endless when you introduce a dildo, the sex toy that has changed couple’s sexpectations for over 25,000 years.