3 New Ways to Give Her The Oral “O”
If you’re one of the people who thinks one woman’s vag is much like another’s, you could be doing both yourself, and your lovers, a huge disservice. If one man’s trash is another man’s treasure, then it stands to reason that one girl’s hash is another girl’s pleasure, and by hash, I mean making a mess, not a bit of pot.
Let me explain. You’re a guy, and you go down on a girl. She likes you to go straight in for the kill, a guided missile going for a direct hit, or clit, I should say. There’s no muss, no fuss, you get in, you get out, with barely a sheen on your lips let alone all over your cheeks.
Girl 2 comes along. You go down on her, you head straight for the kill, your signature move, and... nothing. Oh, she might make a few appreciative noises because yes, you are licking her pussy after all. But do you want the mewling of a kitten or the roar of a lioness?
What went wrong?
Answer: you treated her the same way you treated the previous girl. Now this girl likes the full facial, she likes you to bury yourself in her pussy; lips, nose, face and all. She likes to feel your nose on her clit while your tongue is inside her, and your stubbly chin is working its way across her asshole. She likes you to tongue her taco, then tongue her mouth while she tastes her own pussy juices off your lips. In short, this girl likes the whole shebang.
There’s nothing wrong with either way, it’s just horses for courses, or should that be bucks for fucks? Look, the thing is, every woman is different, and if you are sticking to the same old routine when pleasuring your lady, you’re going to come unstuck. You may have been doing this for a while, but we can guarantee that every woman enjoys a new experience, especially when you’ve been doing it the same way for years.
It’s time to go back to school guys. There are dozens of ways of eating her out, but the trouble is, when you find a way that works, you tend to stick to it. And quite frankly, that can be a little boring for your partner.
So, in the interests of research (this is a tough job, seriously), I have uncovered some different ways to go down on your woman that will turn you into an A-list celebrity; a Clit Eastwood, perhaps, or maybe 50 Cunt.
The Kivin Method
It might sound like a stroppy teenager’s way of getting out of chores, but the Kivin Method is something no pubescent will ever master. This method of oral sex takes finesse, skill, and a willingness to think, or lick, outside the box.
In a nutshell, the Kivin Method is approaching your partner’s vajajay from the side. Rather than sliding between her legs, you come at her from right angles, so while she’s lying on her back, you are perpendicular to her. By lifting her leg (the one that’s nearest to you) over your neck/shoulder, she will give you a brand-new view of her pussy in all its glory, with access to every juicy part of it.
This works in several ways. The Kivin Method offers unrivalled access to her perineum. This much-neglected hot spot is the space between her anus and vagina and it is fuuuulll of nerve endings. Rarely, if ever, stimulated during sex - whether that’s oral or penetrative – this little piece of engineering can make her purr like a Porsche Carrera GT, and you will be firmly in the driver’s seat.
Of course, the perineum (aka the taint), is not the only attraction that opens up for visitors during Kivin season. If you’ve been strictly a parallel partner during muff diving, you will see her pussy in a completely different way. Think about it, when you go down on a woman the traditional way, everything below eye level is invisible. Approach her from the side, however, and a whole smorgasbord of juicy vagina opens up to you. You can take in her whole vulva, nibble on her lips, suck her clit, and sink your tongue as far in as you can.
The piece de resistance of the Kivin Method, though, is that by placing one or two fingers on her taint and applying moderate or light pressure while you pleasure her with your tongue, you will be adding a whole new sensation to licking her out.
You can even switch things up a bit; use a butt plug while you’re going down on her to give her the feeling of fullness. Fuck her with a vibrator or dildo while you concentrate on her clit with your mouth. Use the butt plug AND the vibe while licking her clit and, well, you get the idea.
Another benefit to the Kivin Method is that you can approach her from either side; most women have a preferred side to their clitoris; one might not be that sensitive while the other is, or maybe one side is hypersensitive and can’t take much stimulation. And even if she’s well-balanced on the sensitivity front, switching things up from one side to the other will feel different for both of you, adding an extra dimension to your play.
Cum Hither, Your Majesty
An oral sex position that’s made for the queen in your life, Queening involves the woman sitting on her partner’s face. I know, sitting on your face is a tried and tested method, but it never seems to reach its full potential as one or both parties don’t explore it as they should.
A great position for women to be in control (and adding a nuance of S&M), Queening involves the woman straddling your face, facing away from you, and then slowly lowering her entire pussy down onto your face. Making full use of the headboard is essential, because while she’s riding your face, she can slow things down, speed things up, grind her hips, and really make full use of your face. You, as her loyal servant, can lick, suck, blow, slurp, lap, and explore her entire sex, from anus to clit and back again. Your hands can grab her butt and open her up to expose her ass, and you can guide her forward so you can spend some time rimming, too. As she will be taking a lot of her weight on her legs as well as holding onto the headboard, you will have ample opportunity to finger fuck her, too, while your tongue slides and glides around her clit. In this position, she can also explore her own body by masturbating herself and/or squeezing her own breasts, or even lifting them to her mouth (if she’s well-endowed) and sucking her own nipples. And you will have a front row seat to the spectacle, too.
Do it Doggy Style
Usually associated with penetrative sex, doggy style is a fabulous way to engage in oral sex and will give your girl the time of her life. Visually it’s exquisite; seeing her naked ass in the air, the slit of her pussy, her breasts ripe for playing with; it’s as hot as fuck for both of you. And that’s before you’ve even touched her.
Whether she is on all fours or on her front with her butt in the air, you will have unfettered access to her ass, her vulva, and her clit, as well as the perineum we talked about before. Approach slowly and take your time. Unless she’s in front of a mirror (which is also as hot as hell) she won’t be able to see what you’re doing, so you can take your time to tease her. Lower yourself onto your knees on the floor, and gently stroke her buttocks, spreading them slightly to make her feel exposed. Lick her cheeks, and slowly make your way inward, taking your time. Her pussy is literally at your fingertips, or tongue tip, in this position so use your time well. Lick her slowly, lasciviously, from her clit right up to her anus, using the flat of your tongue so you cover as much of her as possible, then breathe slowly onto the wet trail you’ve left.
Where you go from there is up to you. You can spend time running your tongue around her anus, gently probing, before moving down to her pussy and delving in with your tongue, drinking in her juices. Move up and capture her clit; suck it, pull it, circle it with your tongue. Use your fingers on her clit while you fuck her with a vibe, or even use a vibe with an anal attachment so you take care of her clit, pussy, and ass at the same time.
While this position gives you a wealth of possibilities, she’ll have a few tricks of her own. Closing her legs will create the tightest opening for you to breach, meaning your tongue will go all over her thighs as well as her cunt, and allow you to get just the merest hint of what lies within. Visually it’s fucking beautiful, too, because you will see a glimpse of her lips peeping out, leaving you throbbing for more.
On the other hand, she can spread her legs wide, opening herself up fully so you can see everything; her ass, her pussy, and her clit, all laid bare for you to explore. You won’t know whether to bugger her, fuck her, lick her, or vibe her, but the things is...there’s no rush. Oral sex isn’t a steppingstone on the road to penetrative sex, it’s an act in and of itself, so take your time and really go to town on that beautiful pussy.
Why is it Important?
Okay, so maybe oral sex hasn’t been high on your agenda; maybe you’ve seen it as a way to get her wet enough to screw, and that’s about it. But here’s the thing; master oral sex and she will be putty in your hands. A man who’s really skilled in cunnilingus is a rare thing indeed and bringing that level of skill and attention into your relationship can really improve things; in fact, I would go so far as to say it could save a flagging partnership.
Eating her out is all about her, and if she has been feeling neglected, spending time going down on her – and doing it properly – shows her that you care; about her, about her feelings, about her orgasms, and that you find her as hot as fuck.
On the other hand, spreading her legs and exposing herself to you takes a lot of guts for some women, so giving her the time and space – and reason – to do it means she trusts you, and trust is a huge thing in any relationship.