How Porn Can Help Your Relationship
Statistically, two out of ten people watch porn. Be it in one's teenage years or much later in marriage. Studies show that people's pornographic activity only takes a pause during their lives but never completely stops.
We've also found out that not only do most people watch porn even while in relationships, but they also do so in secret. This could be because they feel their partners will not approve of it or are just afraid to explore it.
Some people are not open about their pornographic indulgence for stereotypical reasons. Since society prefers not to talk about it, you may have the impression that it is not meant to be discussed in your relationship.
We call bullshit.
No need for a therapy session here, but the truth is, when you're in a long-term committed relationship, nothing is off limits. None of your sexual desires should go unnoticed and you should have free reign to discuss and discover as you want.
Porn offers various levels of connection, trust and erotic pleasures. Sharing this with your partner should always be on the menu. And I hate to say it, but if your significant other can’t at least communicate about porn, your sex life is going to stay right where it is … #boring. Porn is the gateway to many things, so use it.
Get sex on the brain
Have you ever watched a romantic movie that led to a full-blown make-out session or sex? If your answer is yes to either, then you might have learned that the experience was a bit more memorable than perhaps you expected. There's a certain adrenaline and interest that comes with watching others engage in sexual pleasure and play. It’s something about their writhing bodies, heated and touching, that invites you to enjoy the exact same thing.
Normally, after a few minutes or hours of feeding the eyes what they like to see, the images are bound to create impressions or switch the person's mood completely. This can be extremely powerful after a long day of work when both of you are tired, thinking there’s no time for sex play.
We call bullshit for that too.
A little touch and a little porn can go a long way. Just watching for 5 minutes, is guaranteed to get sex on your brain. If you’re still not sure how to get started, follow our tips below:
Surprise your partner with your favorite porn scene just as you’re getting into bed. This instantly sets the mood and lets your partner know that you’re in for a good fucking time (pun intended).
Share porn clips with your partner throughout the day. Nothing is better than a hot sex clip in the middle of the day with a text that says, “Can you do this to me after work?” Men and women will instantly react and be ready for some fun in the sheets later that night.
Text a porn scene to your partner when you’re out at dinner. When you go to the bathroom, send him/her a quick text. Tease a little and in your message, say something like, “This is what I want to do to you as soon as we leave.” The sexual tension will be through the roof. You might even end up acting on that porn scene in the car.
Apart from the immediate sexual activity that tends to follow, engaging in porn viewing with your partner can make them see you in a new light entirely - a new sexual light, that is.
In a moment, sexual interest can pique, encouraging both of you to take part in a naked romp. In fact, that same stimulation might have you curious about trying something new. As you watch porn together, you may fantasize about being in the scene or experiencing something different. This is right where you want to be as you start to expand your horizons ...
Expand your horizons to a new dimension
If you and your partner don't talk about your sexual preferences and fulfill your deepest desires, you may have realized that it can be a buzz kill when you don't get the sexual satisfaction you're looking for.
Luckily, pornography is here to open that door for you. Even if you don’t want to use your words, just turn on your favorite porn video and trust me, it will do all the talking.
Once you start watching porn as a couple, it has a way of empowering communication, but also sets the stage for you to engage in some of the activities you’ve been craving most. In this weird way, as you watch, you’re letting each other know that you’re open and willing to try new things and participate more actively. Simply watching, releases the taboo that often comes with porn and allows you to focus on your relationship and the benefits of porn in that relationship.
For example, if you want to explore more opportunities and techniques for oral sex, porn is here for you. You can review millions of videos regarding all types of oral sex techniques and positions. This gives your partner transparency to your thoughts, so he/she knows where to focus sexual energy.
In fact, you might be surprised to know that many couples have only participated in a few sex positions. But pornography revels in hundreds of positions, making your sex dirtier and wilder. And as you encounter more and more, your partner may want a look into your total sexual mindset; a complete perspective that could change the entire atmosphere. All the things you think about, can now be shared in an easy to view format that shows real implementation and expectation. There’s no better way to learn than doing it yourself, so use the front row seats to add to your sexual domain.
As you search and share with each other, you’ll discover more. Slowly, what once intimidated you is now center stage at 8pm every night. You’ve gone from oral sex interest to gang bangs and double penetration. You’re now interested in cosplay and double sized dildos. Wherever your mind wanders, is perfect. Porn is doing just what it’s supposed to do … put some spice back into your fuck.
Unlock your sexual fantasies
Now you’re in the zone, uncovering more and more about pornography and where it can take you. What’s next?
That’s simple … it’s time to unlock your hottest, wettest, dirtiest fantasies. And there’s no better platform than pornography. The truth is, most people don't even know all their sexual fantasies, but it’s no problem. Porn is here to help, yet again.
Couples rarely ask each other to define their sexual fantasies. When it is brought up, it’s usually something discussed early in a relationship and then never again. It’s truly a shame because as we get older and spend more time together, those fantasies change. Without continual discussion, they go unfulfilled, which is exactly what leads to the sex life you currently have.
Pornography gives you the ability push those fantasies to the forefront. You must entertain the most elaborate fantasies, the twisted ones, and even those that make you highly uncomfortable. In doing so, you’ll unlock new interests and discover how to have the gratifying sex you’re looking for. It’s not just sexual intercourse that connects us and builds an everlasting relationship, it’s the full experience that goes deep into our psyche, allowing us to fulfill our deepest desires. This is what you want to discover with your partner. And this is what unleashes the next level in your sex life. Don’t shy away from it.
In fact, use porn to create the fantasies you want. Follow these steps to get started:
Both partners should watch porn separately and select a scene you want to reenact or that represents a fantasy.
Share the videos with each other in an open space where you can discuss what you want and the aspects of the video.
Select a day to carry out these fantasies. We recommend one fantasy per day/night. This allows you to truly focus on the input required to achieve the desired outcome.
Talk about it. Don’t get shy now. Let each other know what you liked and what you didn’t. Then talk about how to do it differently, especially if it didn’t meet your expectations. Remember that fantasies don’t always go as planned or feel as you may imagine. Create your own version to get the fuck you’re looking for.